Posts by My Name is of No Consequence

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Why are anniversaries allowed but not birthdays?

by hyperpen in

the scripture quotes aside, i was always told that we don't celebrate birthdays because that is a celebration of the self, which has no place in jehovah's organization.

then why celebrate anniversaries?

anniversary celebrations are about the joining of two selves, isn't that twice as selfish?.

My Name is of No Consequence

"Why are anniversaries allowed but not birthdays?"

I have been trying to get a good answer to that question for a long time.

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Hi everyone, just signed up here

by samj in

jw
friends

hi, i just signed up.

i'm 35, i've been baptized 20 years, married 15 years.

it seems like the wife and i are going in opposite directions spiritually.

My Name is of No Consequence

@ samj:

Welcome to the forum!

"It seems like the wife and I are going in opposite directions spiritually."

You too huh?

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Just a really messed up situation

by My Name is of No Consequence in

a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

Thank you all for your comments and suggestions. I have good news. Yesterday, I came home from work and asked him to come with me for a talk. His mother gave little resistance. We went to get some refreshments and had an very enjoyable discussion. He told me that he will get baptized when (and if) he is ready and that no one will pressure him. He understands that to survive in this world you almost have to go to college. He said that that will be his focus. He also acknowledged that there have been many changes in the last few years with the org. (Wow! He is only in his teens and understands that!)

All of this was relief to hear. He is a bright, charismatic boy and I don't want those qualities to go to waste. I don't want him to EVER get baptized. I reminded him that he is my only child and that I love him. I want the best for him and I do not want him to make the mistakes that I did. I can't stop him from getting baptized if that's what he wants to do at some point. But, for now, it seems that he has other priorities.

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Just a really messed up situation

by My Name is of No Consequence in

a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

My Name is of No Consequence

It is my understanding that when he goes off to college, everything is on the table.

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Just a really messed up situation

by My Name is of No Consequence in

a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

My Name is of No Consequence

I have a relationship with my son. That is one of the few good things that has come out of this marriage. I love him; he is my only child, stepchild or otherwise. It could be so much more if she was just reasonable.

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Just a really messed up situation

by My Name is of No Consequence in

a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

My Name is of No Consequence

You better believe that I am paying for everything. She has a good job. She says that there is more to being a father and husband. I agree, but I don't get any credit. If I would become "spiritual" again, most of this goes away. That's not gonna happen.

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Just a really messed up situation

by My Name is of No Consequence in

a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

My Name is of No Consequence

Every time I raise an objection or disagree with how she goes about raising him, it is usually disregarded. She is raising him as if he doesn’t have a father. She has threatened to record me the next time I get upset and put me on YouTube. You can’t make this stuff up.

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Just a really messed up situation

by My Name is of No Consequence in

a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

My Name is of No Consequence

A quick summary of my situation: I have known TTATT since at least 2010. My wife and teenage son are still in. (He is my step-son. I only mention that because it is relevant in this situation. You can see some of my previous posts for additional details.) Things have not been going well at home. My wife and I have not slept in the same room for at least 6 months. We can’t have a conversation without getting into an argument, so typically we don’t talk.

My son is unbaptized, but is working toward baptism. However, he has “worldly” associates and a possible girlfriend. I told him that I want to talk to him in private when his mother is not around. I just want to see where he is with everything. His mother will not let me talk to him in private for fear that I will turn him to apostasy (yeah, I know). Yet she will sit in her car with him and talk to him so I can’t hear their conversation.

I just want to tell my son that you can’t work towards baptism and have friends who are not in the org. It seems that no one else is telling him this. Since I am a step-father, I have no parental rights and she uses that to her advantage. The elders know this, but they don’t seem to care. Let me be perfectly clear: I don’t want him to get baptized at all. But my fear is that he will get baptized and then get reproved or worse because of his friends. They’re not bad kids at all, but they’re “unbelievers”.

It is just a really messed up situation. My wife is not allowing me to talk to my son. I have no legal standing and very few people to talk to about it.

Any suggestions?

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1930s Vertical Phonograph for Bethelites and Pioneers- of passing interest.

by Balaamsass2 in

just thought this might be of passing interest to a few members.

we were unpacking some estate items from a 1930s bethelite and were confounded by his vertical phonograph.

lots of old rutherford books, and some trashed rutherford records, but the phonograph was something to behold.